Growing Up…
For most people, growing up is synonymous to getting older. But after living for almost a quarter of century, I look upon my life and realize its much more than just getting older… Its about getting more experience, getting more ideas, its about getting mature (I seem to hit upon the exact word)…
So here I am, with my life before me… So much time seems to have passed. I have lived my life as it came… played, laughed, cried, teased, run, fell, got up, hurt, got hurt, learned, unlearned, forgot, remembered… I have done it all… and I liked it… If I’d given chance to life again, I’ll still make the decisions I made, I’ll go from those paths that I went…
So what did I learn from all my life’s experiences? When I compare myself from what I was 10 years ago, I find many changes in myself. The most prominent one; becoming deliberate from being spontaneous… Now I think before I act… and I am no more impatient. I am now more content then I was 10 years ago… and I am more aggressive. Perhaps those are the signs of maturity!! I now know that maturity isn’t something you’d gain just by being old… You’ll have to interact, think, feel, act. I now know that world isn’t perfect — it was never meant to. I don’t expect perfect outcomes now… Because if you become perfect, you wont have any chance to improve — which is imperfect in its own… Over the years I feel becoming more self centered… which I think is a by product of maturity - or vice versa…
Here too I am talking about myself from the start... I now feel more confident in being honest about things I feel… which is a nice thing as I have said everything about myself without any hesitation and without any lie… Over the years I have seen people’s expectations from me growing… sometimes I find it choking me, sometimes I find it very stimulating… I have learned that if you fear something it will keep you haunting for ever, and if you face it firmly you will conquer it… Be it a memory of someone …
I stopped celebrating my birthday long ago as I don’t see the logic in people congratulating you on something to which you have no credit. I’ve been very less emotional from start and I feel birthdays are just like other days… But, I still love the surprise feeling of answering some long lost friends’ call… Hey! that’s the reason I remember all my friend’s birthdays… I don’t believe in making resolutions because I don’t need any resolution to do something…
Hmm… I wanna end this monologue now… So when I hear to my 11 year old cousin who now dreams to become a pilot, I get reminded of myself… One can draw his inspiration from anywhere… and thats why I believe that this is a continuous process… I have yet to see more… and experience and explore. Life is meant for learning… and growing up… these years will keep coming and going, what counts in the end is how you utilize the time allotted to you…
I will turn 24 tomorrow! I’d like to thank everyone, my family, my friends who are around me, makes me feel happy everyday & keep inspiring me… and special thanks goes to my friend Shahab Jafri for the similar thoughts.
Nisha said,
Wrote on July 31, 2008 @ 9:46 am
First off, wishing you a great birthday
Great post… loved reading it… Keep-up buddy
kashi said,
Wrote on July 31, 2008 @ 9:36 pm
But after living for almost a quarter of century, I look upon my life and realize its much more than just getting older… Its about getting more experience, getting more ideas, its about getting mature (I seem to hit upon the exact word)…
i better know …guys like u always learn basis of experience…weather it is field of work or life !
i know u’ll do better day by day..
Good Luck sirji.
phod dalo..
Alwasy with masters like u !
u’r
kashi.
And wishing u a very happy B’day ! ;)we’ll celebrate 2day !
Rohit said,
Wrote on July 31, 2008 @ 9:41 pm
Happy Birthday Shekhar!
rina said,
Wrote on July 31, 2008 @ 9:55 pm
Happy Birthday !
Amit said,
Wrote on July 31, 2008 @ 11:42 pm
I really enjoy reading your blog.
Wish U Happy B’Day nd Bright Future Ahead.
Amit_Patel
Shahab said,
Wrote on July 31, 2008 @ 11:55 pm
Hahahaha … Copyrighted hai saale ..
.. Here’s wishing you *again* a very happy birthday .. !! Rock on ..!!
Vaishali Srivastava said,
Wrote on August 1, 2008 @ 12:45 am
Lovely…
Wishing you a great birthday
Have fun and keep rocking like you always do
Rupa Tiwari said,
Wrote on August 1, 2008 @ 12:51 am
Hi Raju…
Many Many Happy Returns of the Day
Chal enjoy your day
and now i can ping u back on orkut said,
Wrote on August 1, 2008 @ 9:10 am
so u were 23 a few days ago, now u r 24 and in ur blog above u say u have lived quater of a century
wow wats your secret of growing less mature errr younger :p
and now i can ping u back on orkut said,
Wrote on August 1, 2008 @ 9:11 am
hey its your birthday too
so perhaps that explains it. never mind, was just pulling your legs, many happy returns of the day. so it was your birthday ashok went out to celebrate yesterday?oh yes u r the one.
and now i can ping u back on orkut said,
Wrote on August 1, 2008 @ 9:22 am
now i wish i cud delete my comments as i can on orkut. i am spontaneous unlike you. wrote all that before reading the whole thing properly. so plz ignore the messgae. I don’t mind making a fool of myself in public :).
may be one day you will have an experience that tells you how much of a big deal it is to have your birthday come again 
How come you are deliberate and content yet aggressive. i guess your answer lies in the next line that you are not perfect :p.
sorry to trouble u so much on your birthday (birthdays are important, you survived the world one more year! its a big achievement given the number of people who die of hunger and I must remind you of nature’s food chain)
so here you go, yet another year to living through all those experiences, good or bad
i’m hoping u believe in marriage anniversaries, given the rate of divorce these days
have a wonderful year ahead till you get another good wish from your dear ones
and now i can ping u back on orkut said,
Wrote on August 1, 2008 @ 11:48 am
sorry one more thing about birthdays. this time m serious not pulling your legs. I realized a few years ago that birthdays are perhaps most important to your parents. this was the day a part of them came into life. imagine u r so passionate about your company. won’t u celebrate its anniversaries? If a company can be so important to you, imagine how important will the anniversaries of your children be to you and your birthdays to your parents?
and that day onwards i tried to celebrate my birthdays with my parents as far as possible.
jeba said,
Wrote on October 31, 2008 @ 4:02 am
WOW! nicely written man!